"The people I am most afraid of, the ones I am most careful of and who I consider the most dangerous, are those who tend to become or be victims", said a model, actress and beauty queen; and in everyday life it is so complicated to know who may be right in the midst of conflicts and interpersonal differences, but there are signs that could normally unmask and thus, differentiate the victim from the victimizer: the tormentor speaks from prevention, points, accuses, verbally assaults and judges first, generally without any reason; on the contrary, the one who feels attacked, in few exceptions, will have a reason to defend himself when he is pressured by his aggressor to remember his weak bases of growth or character; but even so, this would not give him permission to damage or hinder the relationships of friends and families, nor those of his own relatives and acquaintances.
The worrying thing is that many who were violated or rejected, tend to hide behind a disguise of "innocence" or camouflage themselves behind the search for compassion because they were supposedly victims of someone or others in their distant past.
Are those who are currently part of or know anything about their lives responsible? Or, will they have to pay for the broken dishes of others!!!!?
The person who has really been mistreated with injustice in the physical or mental aspect, lives at the margin of the problems, does not contribute to the increase of these, is not defensive, is supportive of peace, forgiveness and coexistence; and seeks reconciliation and rapprochement of others, even if among these, are included their enemies.
Proverbs 18:17 NKJV
17 The first one to plead his cause seems right,
Until his neighbor comes and examines him.
John 8:7 NKJV
7 So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.”
2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV
17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.
Isaiah 43:18-19 NKJV
18 “Do not remember the former things,
Nor consider the things of old.
19 Behold, I will do a new thing,
Now it shall spring forth;
Shall you not know it?
I will even make a road in the wilderness
And rivers in the desert.